He has been alone after a really sadly unsuccessful marriage for about 2 years now. Always having been a colletor of miscellaneous junk made him just a guy who likes junk to me, certainly not an aspect of him that I gave any serious thought to. However, now he has established a relationship with a nice woman about his age, with patience and willinglness to wade through the endless clutter. He has agreed to let her organize in tiny sections of the house. I mean it was OK to make a path between the sink and the stove. She had to establish with him that she has a deep need to have a space without clutter so that she can think. He agreed to that, and he's OK with it. It seems that he never realized, and probably still doesn't fully realize what a disaster his house is, so it's hard for him to give up any space at all to tidiness. Not obcessive tidiness, just a normal room with floor space and room for furniture. She is working through this situation with the perserverence of a St. Bernard in a blizzard. I would really lke to help her, but I know nothing about this condition. He is uptight about tidying up, but willing to see it go forward in increments, like the sink to the stove.

Would it be wiser to seek professional help here, or just plod along as she's doing right now?? Are there any support groups for this type of situation? I realize I cannot do anything to help, so I thought I might seek some advic to pass on.. Got any? He's a nice guy, and she's a very patient gal. Thanks.

He has been alone after a really sadly unsuccessful marriage for about 2 years now. Always having been a colletor of miscellaneous junk made him just a guy who likes junk to me, certainly not an aspect of him that I gave any serious thought to. However, now he has established a relationship with a nice woman about his age, with patience and willinglness to wade through the endless clutter. He has agreed to let her organize in tiny sections of the house. I mean it was OK to make a path between the sink and the stove. She had to establish with him that she has a deep need to have a space without clutter so that she can think. He agreed to that, and he's OK with it. It seems that he never realized, and probably still doesn't fully realize what a disaster his house is, so it's hard for him to give up any space at all to tidiness. Not obcessive tidiness, just a normal room with floor space and room for furniture. She is working through this situation with the perserverence of a St. Bernard in a blizzard. I would really lke to help her, but I know nothing about this condition. He is uptight about tidying up, but willing to see it go forward in increments, like the sink to the stove.

Would it be wiser to seek professional help here, or just plod along as she's doing right now?? Are there any support groups for this type of situation? I realize I cannot do anything to help, so I thought I might seek some advic to pass on.. Got any? He's a nice guy, and she's a very patient gal. Thanks.